A day at the zoo w/ Father & son
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Saturday, July 21, 2012
Look who's in the paper...
Another late holiday post
Memorial day,
We spent it under a tent watching the St. Claire Shores parade. It was a blast! My sister in-law and I packed lunch, we both have two year old boys and our eight year old. The day was sunny, hot with a sprinkle here and there. Not enough to ruin our day!
After the tent was up the bar which we were in front of had their grill going and as the winds picked up, they almost lost there tent. My husband who is very experienced in putting up and taking thoes tents down instantly jumped up, not before he wispered that they were going to lose it before they did but he likes to predict the future sometimes, in this case he was right. Since the tent was in the parking lot it was little they could tie the ropes down with. So my hunny sujested that they tie them on cars and what ever was around heavy enough to where the tent won't lift. The did and my super husband saved the day. We still payed for the hot dogs and drinks, but its ok. Steven got alot of attention dancing with the DJ while we were waiting for the parade to begin.
A photographer off to the side couldn't help but take pictures of him and his cool moves.
He worked for the town paper, don't know if he made it but its still cool.
Happy Holiday!! Our Memorial Day was Grand!!
Anyone ever see Angeles? Well you won't believe this
The photo reads
12-11-2011 9:01
12-11-2011 9:01
If your like me...
who imports all pictures to your PC
who imports all pictures to your PC
then keep snapping pictures without
ever really seeing what you got
Until your good and ready to Edit, Post and Print.
That's me!
Today is 01-28-2012
A normal day w/ baby and I
painting, coloring and reading
what we love to do. Once he fell asleep
I started to organize the mess of my picasa folders
and edit a few pictures. I come across a folder of Steven and Jeremiah
I thought in my head "are any of these worth saving"?
The boys were in PJ's and steven had a dirty face
so actually i was thinking about disguarding the folder
but as I begin to edit the pictures they are rather good.
As I continue to edit a picture of the boys,
I noticed little orbs over J's face
so be started to like the pic more
I went to type
"Cousins"
"We got each others back"
I deleted it and changed it to "A shoulder to lean on"
I deleted it by mistake to change the font then my PC froze and stopped working.
I figured I'd keep out the words since this experience happened
I think she wanted it that way.
I felt it then.
I knew someone was there but i did't know
what they wanted, Scared? Never
Just accepting.
I closed all the opened programs and tried it again,
I opened picasa
and continued to edit the pictures
I come across a picture of Steven sitting on the couchw/ his guitar
I was using the black&white feature
while taking the pictures.
They came in a 3 sequence frame.
1).
2).
1).
2).
3).
You tell me what you see,
No photo editing other than what i've stated.
Here are the pictures with and without the effect.
With HDR-ish
Without HDR-ish effect
The picture didn't catch my attention until
I did the HDR-ish effect {to Emulate "that high dynamic range" look}
Then I saw it
I knew she was there all the time
and My uncle, Whom Steven carries his name
I see smiling too, I miss that face.
Though a little scary, I have to see through the fear
to see the man I remember.
In Grandmas arms as they watch over my baby.
I was speechless and still am.
I see smiling too, I miss that face.
Though a little scary, I have to see through the fear
to see the man I remember.
In Grandmas arms as they watch over my baby.
I was speechless and still am.
Absolutely Amazing!
What I see before my eyes
reminds me of what I so long for what I miss so much....
FAMILY!
The backbone, The Strength, The Power, The Wisom
The backbone, The Strength, The Power, The Wisom
It seems like everytime a person dies life changes.
I remember as a little girl having 4th of July picnic's every year
For my Great grandma, Nonie, whom lived to be 102.
She died in 1996. That same year,
In December my uncle Steve was killed.
The Picnic's stopped.
In December my uncle Steve was killed.
The Picnic's stopped.
I was 12.
Living in California,
where it was awkard to be ME.
where it was awkard to be ME.
My uncle was killed and buried before I knew he was gone.
Since it was Christmas
They waited till after to tell me.
Things Adults do. smh
Things Adults do. smh
The last memory I have is
crying my eyes out at the airport
crying my eyes out at the airport
before I moved to LA.
I wanted to see Uncle Steve,
Vari & Autumn before I left.
Vari & Autumn before I left.
It never happened.
When I was told
"The Angles took Uncle Steve home"
"The Angles took Uncle Steve home"
I didn't quite understand what that meant
I never cried.
That following summer I returned to the the D
I remember My Auntie Sandy was taking me to see Uncle Steve,
At 13, it still wasn't registering where he was.
As we pull up to the Cemetary it sets in.
As we get out the car all I did was cry my eyes out.
I didn't even get to say goodbye.
I still have my bear I hold dear.
My Auntie Val,
was called by the Angels in 2005 to return home.
Auntie Mama, she was to the nieces.
Auntie Mama, she was to the nieces.
A woman I loved, respected, and apreciated in my life.
She taught me Strong values, business, Educiation, responsibilty
and so much more.
and so much more.
Not giving up a fight even if it takes your life
Cancer took hers away.
It still wasn't until I got older to actually understand & apreciate
Life.
Life.
I'm still learning everyday to apreciate what I have
Something my husband reminds me of daily.
" See, I did marry a good guy Auntie" .
Anyway, the longer I stare at this picture
I 'm seeing more, then I opened my eyes
to my grandmothers arms.
to my grandmothers arms.
Grandma,
whom I lost in the following year 2006.
Cancer took her away as well.
I miss her laugh. And our long talks.
Macaroni and cheese, fried chicken, and greens
with pea soup.
Wisdom is this womans name.
and Master Chef is her game
The Clean Plate Club creator.
The most honest person you would of ever met.
Born with a silver tounge,
and she spoke & lived it daily.
With out this woman there would be no me.
and she spoke & lived it daily.
With out this woman there would be no me.
These are the Strongest people I know,
The most honest
and your just not going to get any more REAL than them.
and your just not going to get any more REAL than them.
I think about the times we shared and the laughs we had,
wishing there were more.
Wishing my son could experience the same love.
Realizing that he does.
Amazed, how this came to me
I thought they were gone but they were here all along.
I thought they were gone but they were here all along.
A shoulder to lean on.
Thank you for staying around,
I needed your guidance on the right path.
The first time Uncle Steve came to visit I was 16,
He has now gotten his wings.
but not fully.
I'm begining to see another face in his,
and it kinda scares me,
When I first noticed the picture in the photo I saw him perfectly.
Great big smile with his pimp hat on.
imperfect face but his smile stood out strong.
He had to show me it was him
or it would of scared me.
He has now gotten his wings.
but not fully.
I'm begining to see another face in his,
and it kinda scares me,
When I first noticed the picture in the photo I saw him perfectly.
Great big smile with his pimp hat on.
imperfect face but his smile stood out strong.
He had to show me it was him
or it would of scared me.
Thank you for remembering me,
I think i've answered my own question.
I think i've answered my own question.
I could never forget what has never left.
The physical you is no longer here but your spirit remains.
When I feel like i'm losing faith you always know when to appear.
The physical you is no longer here but your spirit remains.
When I feel like i'm losing faith you always know when to appear.
Thank you for showing your self, I needed that reminder.
I love you more than words can express,
I will only continue to do my best.
I know, I'm proud of me too!
I know, I'm proud of me too!
I know you've met Steven,
you talk to him all the time.
you talk to him all the time.
I knew you were eventually coming,
I just didnt know how.
I just didnt know how.
Sending love and hugs to the highest skys
continue to bless us with your presence.
I know there is a meaning behind everything
I'm still looking for a meaning to, why me?
How me?
That question still ponders in my mind all the time.
I pushed them away for so long I wasn't sure what to expect.
You remembered I don't like scary things,
Thank you for that smile Uncle Steve I needed it. I see you.
Its been a long time, but I remember!
Never again
will I second guess your memory,
because it lives within me & Steven.
Watching as I grow and mature,
will I second guess your memory,
because it lives within me & Steven.
Watching as I grow and mature,
and raise a genius to be so pure.
And to see this Great man he will become.
And to see this Great man he will become.
The face I see in the photo.
And this is the smile I see.
I will post the pic of him the way I see him in the photo
once its located.
In the photo he has on a Hat.
Enegries are all around us...the conclusion
I stare at this picture I keep wondering why does this happen to me?
Ever since I was 16 Uncle Steve came to visit me, I was having the hardest time dealing with death/loss.
His form was small, and not a figure of a person at all, just a tiny glowing light with fluttering wings.
When he came to visit he was on my mind, I was emotional about how I never said goodbye.
I didn't see his face but I knew it was him. He came and wiped my tears away.
I've had many experiences over the years, resulting of the many lives lost
They had a special place in my heart.
They never scared me only made questions arise, why visit me? What is the message your sending to me? Am I suppose to be some sort clairvoyant? Talking to the dead?
The thought frightens me.
I remember when i was younger watching Sylvia Brown,
her connections were very interesting to me.
Never would I imagine that I was being prepared for what my future holds.
This is not me!
I don't like scary things. But pure and happy enegries protects me.
I have to be older and alot wiser to accept the things I hear, feel, and now certainly see.
Eventhough I feel as if the people that visit me are people I know,
I'm not ready to let the ones enter whom I have no connection with.
I can't stop staring at this picture.
it is like i'm looking at something not real.
I can't explain it, its too sureal for me to even understand.
All I know is everything happens for a reason.
I'm just trying to figure out how it relates to me.
I know my personal views and beliefs on the situation but not the technichal
aspects on the spiritual beings presence.
What is the meaning when Angels come to visit?
This has my mind so boggled its crazy!
As I stare at this picture more and more I'm seeing what my sister and aunt sees,
They see nonnie, my great grand mother whom was french and indian, she lived to be 102.
I didn't see her at first because I was too young to really remember her face,
my fondest memory of her was that her favorite color was green, because it was the color of money.
I remember she used to sit on her hair, a long braid down her back.
Many things still concerns me.
What made me swith from taking color pictures to using the B&W effect?
Im looking at the pictures of the entire day with the boys,
I begin to see orbs in the pictures w/ the boys, Jeremiah (who shares Auntie Val's face)
didn't smile in any of the pictures and its like he knew they were there and they frightened him.
In one pic Steven has his arm around Jeremiah and it looks like he's telling him don't be scared they won't hurt you.
After he left is when I continued to take pictures of just Steven and his guitar.
I'm studying the pictures and I think he knew they were there.
After they left he stopped playing with the guitar. SMH.
I'm not telling you to believe what I believe or see what I see. You can't see my Angeles if they don't want you to see them. There here for me.
12/11/2011
what DOES THIS MEAN?
.....SILENCE....
i just called Mike, a man i met last week w/ dad. His store is "The Akashic Corner" on Gratiot.
i had a few questions and I knew he would be able to answer a few of them. I really didn't go into detail about the photo, I just asked about the symbol of spirits he left on the back of his business card.
One symbol is in the photo he drew two one the card.
This also strike me like WHOA!
I asked what does one symbol mean?
it means that this person was on God's left hand side
he was murdered or committed murder
he basically told me that this person has many lessons to learn to gain the second symbol
but he has his chance because the person that killed him is about to die or face judgement day in
where he will get his justice
He also told me that when spirits come there will be a glowing light on the right side and thoes are the murdered souls who want justice.
He then tells me to get a book and call him when i do. At first I was all for reading this book to gain more knowlegde on the spirit world, then I spoke w/ my father in-iaw and he shined the light on not reading
something that will bring more spirits to you that you dont want.
I keep bringing them to me, I call them.
if we're all Enegries don't you think they would feel my enegry drawing them to me?
Damn! this is deep. i need some time to think....
01/31/11
I put down all technology for the next day
I had to meditate hard and clear my mind. Though the enegries weren't negative the thought of thinking they were here
began to frighten me. I didn't want to be left alone.
I know being 27 and I'm scard of a damn ghost, but who wouldn't? When the proof is in the pic. I have always felt the enegries over the years but never have I been
so frightened I couldn't sleep. I mean, I didnt want to be left alone. If I dosed off I would wake up and find my husband, I laugh about it now, but I was really freaked.
Thinking about spirits that I know is one thing, I know the ones that love me would never try to hurt me, but the thought of
letting ones in that do began to get to me.
I dont want to open the door and not beable to close it.
As I try to recap the day by looking at the 30 pictures I took that day of steven and Jeremiah
Im trying to remember what wwe did
and how I was feeling, the things that went on and emotions that day.
I begin to remember, looking at what pictures I took of the boys in every picture Jeremiah's face is the same.
His expression show fear and I start to remember he was rather fussy that day w/ me, not really crying but wanting to be held and not left alone.
I didnt catch it then, but as I recap that day its clear to me now. They were here.
When I get to the pictures of steven after Jeremish left is when I am remembering the last photo when he is done with the guitar and is crawling to me.
I felt the enegries then, and so did steven, I'm remembering holding him as they flew by. I remember when the came to visit, I called on them that day.
When mommy and tony came to pick up Jeremiah, he was so ready to go, he put his own coat on. He wanted to leave there so fast, at the time I wondered why?
Now I know,
So, in conclusion to my spritual experience. I now feel like my questions are answered.
I did put it out in the universe that I was forgetting the ones I love
but they reminded me that they are here when I need them.
Our Enegries are so strong, my question was answered before I even saw it or rember it .
It was here all the time, I miss them more around the holiday's
and thats when I put my enegry in the Universe to recieve my need
to feel them so they are sent to me to
remind me they are still around.
Ever since I was 16 Uncle Steve came to visit me, I was having the hardest time dealing with death/loss.
His form was small, and not a figure of a person at all, just a tiny glowing light with fluttering wings.
When he came to visit he was on my mind, I was emotional about how I never said goodbye.
I didn't see his face but I knew it was him. He came and wiped my tears away.
I've had many experiences over the years, resulting of the many lives lost
They had a special place in my heart.
They never scared me only made questions arise, why visit me? What is the message your sending to me? Am I suppose to be some sort clairvoyant? Talking to the dead?
The thought frightens me.
I remember when i was younger watching Sylvia Brown,
her connections were very interesting to me.
Never would I imagine that I was being prepared for what my future holds.
This is not me!
I don't like scary things. But pure and happy enegries protects me.
I have to be older and alot wiser to accept the things I hear, feel, and now certainly see.
Eventhough I feel as if the people that visit me are people I know,
I'm not ready to let the ones enter whom I have no connection with.
I can't stop staring at this picture.
it is like i'm looking at something not real.
I can't explain it, its too sureal for me to even understand.
All I know is everything happens for a reason.
I'm just trying to figure out how it relates to me.
I know my personal views and beliefs on the situation but not the technichal
aspects on the spiritual beings presence.
What is the meaning when Angels come to visit?
This has my mind so boggled its crazy!
As I stare at this picture more and more I'm seeing what my sister and aunt sees,
They see nonnie, my great grand mother whom was french and indian, she lived to be 102.
I didn't see her at first because I was too young to really remember her face,
my fondest memory of her was that her favorite color was green, because it was the color of money.
I remember she used to sit on her hair, a long braid down her back.
Many things still concerns me.
What made me swith from taking color pictures to using the B&W effect?
Im looking at the pictures of the entire day with the boys,
I begin to see orbs in the pictures w/ the boys, Jeremiah (who shares Auntie Val's face)
didn't smile in any of the pictures and its like he knew they were there and they frightened him.
In one pic Steven has his arm around Jeremiah and it looks like he's telling him don't be scared they won't hurt you.
After he left is when I continued to take pictures of just Steven and his guitar.
I'm studying the pictures and I think he knew they were there.
After they left he stopped playing with the guitar. SMH.
I'm not telling you to believe what I believe or see what I see. You can't see my Angeles if they don't want you to see them. There here for me.
12/11/2011
what DOES THIS MEAN?
.....SILENCE....
i just called Mike, a man i met last week w/ dad. His store is "The Akashic Corner" on Gratiot.
i had a few questions and I knew he would be able to answer a few of them. I really didn't go into detail about the photo, I just asked about the symbol of spirits he left on the back of his business card.
One symbol is in the photo he drew two one the card.
This also strike me like WHOA!
I asked what does one symbol mean?
it means that this person was on God's left hand side
he was murdered or committed murder
he basically told me that this person has many lessons to learn to gain the second symbol
but he has his chance because the person that killed him is about to die or face judgement day in
where he will get his justice
He also told me that when spirits come there will be a glowing light on the right side and thoes are the murdered souls who want justice.
He then tells me to get a book and call him when i do. At first I was all for reading this book to gain more knowlegde on the spirit world, then I spoke w/ my father in-iaw and he shined the light on not reading
something that will bring more spirits to you that you dont want.
I keep bringing them to me, I call them.
if we're all Enegries don't you think they would feel my enegry drawing them to me?
Damn! this is deep. i need some time to think....
01/31/11
I put down all technology for the next day
I had to meditate hard and clear my mind. Though the enegries weren't negative the thought of thinking they were here
began to frighten me. I didn't want to be left alone.
I know being 27 and I'm scard of a damn ghost, but who wouldn't? When the proof is in the pic. I have always felt the enegries over the years but never have I been
so frightened I couldn't sleep. I mean, I didnt want to be left alone. If I dosed off I would wake up and find my husband, I laugh about it now, but I was really freaked.
Thinking about spirits that I know is one thing, I know the ones that love me would never try to hurt me, but the thought of
letting ones in that do began to get to me.
I dont want to open the door and not beable to close it.
As I try to recap the day by looking at the 30 pictures I took that day of steven and Jeremiah
Im trying to remember what wwe did
and how I was feeling, the things that went on and emotions that day.
I begin to remember, looking at what pictures I took of the boys in every picture Jeremiah's face is the same.
His expression show fear and I start to remember he was rather fussy that day w/ me, not really crying but wanting to be held and not left alone.
I didnt catch it then, but as I recap that day its clear to me now. They were here.
When I get to the pictures of steven after Jeremish left is when I am remembering the last photo when he is done with the guitar and is crawling to me.
I felt the enegries then, and so did steven, I'm remembering holding him as they flew by. I remember when the came to visit, I called on them that day.
When mommy and tony came to pick up Jeremiah, he was so ready to go, he put his own coat on. He wanted to leave there so fast, at the time I wondered why?
Now I know,
So, in conclusion to my spritual experience. I now feel like my questions are answered.
I did put it out in the universe that I was forgetting the ones I love
but they reminded me that they are here when I need them.
Our Enegries are so strong, my question was answered before I even saw it or rember it .
It was here all the time, I miss them more around the holiday's
and thats when I put my enegry in the Universe to recieve my need
to feel them so they are sent to me to
remind me they are still around.
He "says" our son is "Too Handsome"
What is "Too handsome"?
My husband told me that our almost two year old son is too handsome
He get approached everyday. we walked to the park and came to a street as the car stopped at the stop sign a car of three girls, not young kids but young adults 18-21-ish, Steven waves and they all wave at the same time like all there yes were on the cute curly hair boy on the corner. We went to rent a movie and a lady walks up and says she has a two year old nephew but he takes the cake he is simply adorable. Men and women young and old all have to comment on how cool his hair is.
This is why, or maybe the excuse to why we won't cut his hair just yet. Its just to awesome.
This is how I found him after switching over my laundry load, he took daddies plate from the fridge and wanted the BBQ chicken. How could i say no to this face? So I heated it up and gave it back. Daddy had to order out for us.
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I didn't forget you,
I've been so distant because I don't know what to say to you. I wasn't there when I know you probably need me most. I apologize that I treated you this way. I love you and could never do a thing to let you down. I love you more than you know. your my sister, you are my girl, my right hand, whats thicker than blood? Your friendship means more to me than words could express. Having your spirit in my life has kept me humble. I am the lucky one that you chose to be a friend. I am blessed that I at least got to meet that wonderful man that we lost and even more hurt that I wasnt there that day. I cried that day I felt the hurt your soul endured when losing a man you loved and cherished so much. He loved you more that you could imagine and he is watching you knowing that you will make the right choices with out him here because you are God and your decisions will be perfection.
I love you hunny!!
Miss you madly and always
xoxoxo
I know I missed ur bday also but don't worry I got you once this baby is out
we have plans ;) *wink*
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Question: Are you a stepmom or does your child have one?
<p> <p>Goodmorning,</p><br>
<p>Its 6:30 and I've been up for the past hour. </p>
<p>I don't know what to make of this situation I've been put in. Over the years my stepdaughter and I have grown alot together and we've bonded so well. I can't wait until those teenage years. I am just happy we will have a relationship when she's that age, some moms come in the picture then, I'm glad its now.</p><br>
<p>In the beginning it was hard she was only five and never had to share daddy before now she had a baby brother on the way and a new mom. It was also hard for me to losen up to her. I made sure I helped her color and clean her room we did have fun together but I wasn't able to cudle her and get that close. As she got older it was easier, I realized we share the same zoidac, we're both sagittarians, her birthday is three days after mine. I began to realize how much we were alike. We have things in common and share the same taste. I then became soft, she began to call me mommy around our second thanksgiving together. </p>
<p>The day she asked me if it was okay if she addressed me as mommy was a day I will never forget. My husband and I were so stunned, what could I tell her? She called me mom until the day her mom found out, baby girl told her mom that she has two moms and we said it was OK. Her mother was so livid we didn't see her for a weeks.
Mom still crosses her lips occasionally, because she knows its okay. She just doesn't want to get scolded by her mom. Her mom once told me that if her dad wasn't home that she shouldn't be with her brother and I she needs time w/ daddy not you.
Yesterday I received a call from her asking how long has baby girl been complaining about her chest hurting? Clueless me didn't have a clue what she was talking about its been almost two weeks since she's been here. What chest pain I reply? As she went on, I remembered, about a month ago babygirl came to me about pain in her chest, I'm thinking she can't breathe and needed a breathing treatment or something but the pain she was discribing were growing boobs. We laughed and I told her thats the pains of being a girl, jokingly I told her she will start to get hair in places and the conversation was not a heart to heart sit down lets talk kinda of thing, she's only eight and her question seemed more like she was wondering if it were true that when boobs grow they hurt, because that's what she heard.
Anyway, her mom goes on how babygirl wasnt talking to her and if she comes to me again about questions to just tell her go ask her mom. Now I love that baby girl comes to me and will talk to me about what's going on, she comes in crying after an argument with on of her friends, I listen. We talk.
She asked me to buy her a bra (before the chest hurting issue) and it took me awhile but finially I remembered having one without having any up there(thanks to my sis in-law for jogging my memory) i was the only girl at the sleep over with a matching panty and bra set. My sister in-law brought her some little bras that she was keeping for her from her only other niece, I found the little matching sets.
Her mom was also livid over this, she refused for her to wear them.
I know the bond we share will only get stronger and I feel as if when the issue of sex comes up that I will be the one she comes to. I don't want to tell her no and have her talk to anyone, especially if she's not telling her mother things. I run everything by her father before I make any decisions and I tell him everything she tells me (even is he doesn't want to hear it).
The big difference between the two moms is one is Goth and one is a girly girl. One cares about their appearence ad the other could care less. One has a piecred face with gauge ears and tattoos the other hates needles. The child in the middle is a total girl and what "we" like the real mom hates.
Do I listen to the real mom and stop talking to her child or should I look at it as I rather her talk to me that shut both of us out.
<p>Its 6:30 and I've been up for the past hour. </p>
<p>I don't know what to make of this situation I've been put in. Over the years my stepdaughter and I have grown alot together and we've bonded so well. I can't wait until those teenage years. I am just happy we will have a relationship when she's that age, some moms come in the picture then, I'm glad its now.</p><br>
<p>In the beginning it was hard she was only five and never had to share daddy before now she had a baby brother on the way and a new mom. It was also hard for me to losen up to her. I made sure I helped her color and clean her room we did have fun together but I wasn't able to cudle her and get that close. As she got older it was easier, I realized we share the same zoidac, we're both sagittarians, her birthday is three days after mine. I began to realize how much we were alike. We have things in common and share the same taste. I then became soft, she began to call me mommy around our second thanksgiving together. </p>
<p>The day she asked me if it was okay if she addressed me as mommy was a day I will never forget. My husband and I were so stunned, what could I tell her? She called me mom until the day her mom found out, baby girl told her mom that she has two moms and we said it was OK. Her mother was so livid we didn't see her for a weeks.
Mom still crosses her lips occasionally, because she knows its okay. She just doesn't want to get scolded by her mom. Her mom once told me that if her dad wasn't home that she shouldn't be with her brother and I she needs time w/ daddy not you.
Yesterday I received a call from her asking how long has baby girl been complaining about her chest hurting? Clueless me didn't have a clue what she was talking about its been almost two weeks since she's been here. What chest pain I reply? As she went on, I remembered, about a month ago babygirl came to me about pain in her chest, I'm thinking she can't breathe and needed a breathing treatment or something but the pain she was discribing were growing boobs. We laughed and I told her thats the pains of being a girl, jokingly I told her she will start to get hair in places and the conversation was not a heart to heart sit down lets talk kinda of thing, she's only eight and her question seemed more like she was wondering if it were true that when boobs grow they hurt, because that's what she heard.
Anyway, her mom goes on how babygirl wasnt talking to her and if she comes to me again about questions to just tell her go ask her mom. Now I love that baby girl comes to me and will talk to me about what's going on, she comes in crying after an argument with on of her friends, I listen. We talk.
She asked me to buy her a bra (before the chest hurting issue) and it took me awhile but finially I remembered having one without having any up there(thanks to my sis in-law for jogging my memory) i was the only girl at the sleep over with a matching panty and bra set. My sister in-law brought her some little bras that she was keeping for her from her only other niece, I found the little matching sets.
Her mom was also livid over this, she refused for her to wear them.
I know the bond we share will only get stronger and I feel as if when the issue of sex comes up that I will be the one she comes to. I don't want to tell her no and have her talk to anyone, especially if she's not telling her mother things. I run everything by her father before I make any decisions and I tell him everything she tells me (even is he doesn't want to hear it).
The big difference between the two moms is one is Goth and one is a girly girl. One cares about their appearence ad the other could care less. One has a piecred face with gauge ears and tattoos the other hates needles. The child in the middle is a total girl and what "we" like the real mom hates.
Do I listen to the real mom and stop talking to her child or should I look at it as I rather her talk to me that shut both of us out.
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